Diwali dilwali Dilemma!

As the Diwali is nearing, all Indians across globe go festive. Indulgence in home cleaning, shopping, home décor, sweets, family, friends, gifts, cheers, smiles, lights, crackers, rangoli, socializing, Diwali parties, ethnic dressing, lavish dinners, and the list just keeps going.

But, hold on! Slight Reverse please! Let’s get to a point in time when we start planning on Diwali. How do we celebrate comes much later. Where and with who comes right after we check the Diwali date in calendar. I will be talking here specifically on the people who have multiple homes in different locations.

A couple (with or without kid) who is working in a metropolitan city staying in a multi-story facility which they call it ‘Home’ where they generally live. This category mostly has at least two more options called ‘Home’ – their respective childhood houses where their respective parents are still living.

Diwali is related with the Goddess Laxmi and the daughter-in-law is ‘termed’ as the Laxmi of the house, so very obviously, the couple is expected to be travelling to the Husband’s family home to celebrate Diwali – generally every year. A daughter-in-law also adapts to this expectation right from her first Diwali post marriage. So, all happy!  Yes, why not!

Let’s rethink!

It is undoubtedly the day when we worship goddess Laxmi and hence, the house must have their respective “Laxmis” at home on this auspicious day. But, how many homes do ACTUALLY accept and treat them as their goddess laxmi? How many of us have ACTUALLY thought about their preferences while deciding on how-what-where of celebrations? Even when she is happily accepting the change of home for celebrating Diwali, how many of us have thought on – what must have gone in her mind to adapt to this change? Who imposed this rule that its natural for a female to comply to such changes in life?

A list of such questions just takes a walk through my mind and I lay right there, thinking too hard. Hence, writing this post so we could share the burden of my thoughts. Thanks for joining in. J

Exceptions do exists and I completely respect them, but what I am taking up here is – A Rethink.

If we are unable to accept and treat the bride as goddess laxmi of the house, then why can’t we let her decide on where her actual Diwali lies. If she ever chooses to celebrate her Diwali with her parental home and not with in-laws, will you be able to digest it actually? Are you sure you will not be offended from inside? Really ? Not even one percent? Oh please accept that you are lying. You are definitely offended and shocked on her decision. In fact, you find her anti-family and less respectful to the new home. It is hurtful to the husband, disrespectful to the parent-in-law and critically low grade by the sibling-in-law. Is it ? I mean Actually?

And what if she demands her husband as well to join her celebrate Diwali with her parents? OMGH – this is beyond tolerance now. Please suffer turbulence in relationships.

 

Loji ho gayi ji Happy Diwali!

Think again when you try convincing your wife to apply for Diwali leaves and fly with you to join your parents for Diwali. When you tell her that your mom is alone at home and would be happy to have her joining in for Diwali, please rethink about your mom-in-law who is not even expecting her daughter on Diwali and is already convinced that her princess will never be with her on any Diwali.

How will you worship Goddess laxmi without considering the happiness of your own Laxmi?

Let’s device multiple options rather than dictating a mandate!

Think Wise and Play Safe!

Happy Diwali! J