The insensitive Mascularism!

Continuing with my thoughts of previous conversation on rape, I feel anxious to understand how and why have we arrived to this fatal destination. I realized this clearly only yesterday.

Being a mother to a nearly four-year-old boy, I am much more alert and feel holding a high responsibility towards society. I emphasize slightly more on the aspect of raising a more responsible masculine gender who could support and liberate his female counterparts from the prevalent fear of the opposite sex.

By the way, wishing everyone a very happy mother’s day!

And of course, not ignoring the men who made it possible! Congratulations to them as well.

On this day, and being a Sunday, I took my son to attend a colouring workshop which he enjoyed a lot. Then, obviously, we had to buy him a new toy – we being in a toy shop for the workshop!

This time, he had a very different demand of toy – no car, no crayons, no ball, no bubble gun, BUT a doll. Yes! He demanded to have a doll – Masha, one of his favourite cartoon character. He chose her version carefully and was extremely happy to have it. The moment one of the store staff saw him demanding for a doll, he chuckled to us and asked if my son was sure he wanted a doll. Oh yes, my son is a male and how could he play with a doll – which is supposed to be held only by female children. I keep wondering on when / how was pink diagnosed as female and blue as male.

Anyways, I ignored his smiles and bought my son his favourite doll. He was extremely happy to have her and started playing with her. Within few minutes, I realized a very important part which we all actually do not realize.

He was making the head of the doll go round and round and pulling its skirt up and down, making her go upside down and pulling it from her hairs while he carried her to his room. No! No! my son is absolutely normal and has a lot of female friends. He loves his doll very much. It is just that he is used to playing only with cars, trucks, guns, and at max – teddy bears. He never had a doll who we are supposed to take care of.

This moment made me realize the real cause of all the bad behaviour shown by the male gender towards the females. We never actually teach or make them to “TAKE CARE” of others. We restricted being affectionate only with females and deprived our men of it.

On this mother’s day, my son gave me the best gift. A lesson of life.

The next moment I told him how doll’s dress should be kept, how it will hurt Masha, if he pulls her from her hairs, how wrong it is to move her head round and round. How good it will feel when he will take care of her and Masha will smile. The change was immediate. I saw him actually ‘taking care’ of her and also playing happily.

I understand that this was just a non-living doll and hence, the results were immediate. But, what if we start even now with the living ones and may witness results in society later in years or may be even after we die. But a better society will indeed be a nice gift to our next generations, right?

When a tree dies, it does not bother if its seedlings will grow well, where, how, or not. It just nourishes its seeds with best of its capabilities, so well to sustain its strength against all odds and sprout in the best possibilities to bring a new and a better version to its ancestors. Why not we humans? After all, we are the intelligent ones, isn’t it?

Let’s not segregate the children in boy and girl – let them be just children. Allow a girl to buy a toy gun and learn the skills of self-defence. Allow a boy to buy a doll house and learn to make a home.
I recently read somewhere and found it quiet amusing. When you go out to dine, the waiter / waitress will place the bill towards the male person only – 99% cases. Because,

1.       Male is supposed to pay lunch / dinner bills, right?
2.       It is insulting for a male to allow a female paying bills.

Let’s change this. Next time, when we go out for dinner, let’s pick the bill from husband’s table and be it paid by the wife and handed over to the waiter with a smile. In case, you may be a SAHM (Stay-At-Home-Mom), you could use your savings or else, feel free to use your husband’s credit card. But, pay yourself sometimes, to break this stereotype.

Let’s rise above this competition of Feminism and Mascularism and move forward towards a happier Humanitarian.